It is my daughter's sixteenth birthday today. She took her driver's license exam today and passed!! Many parents have expressed to me the freedom that both she and I will now have. “Now that she is a legal driver, she can drive herself to all her activities and functions.” My daughter even hopes that it will allow her to participate in more dance classes because it won’t impose on our schedule. My husband and I don't seem to be thinking like everyone else. Allowing our daughter more dance classes because it no longer requires a time commitment from us, just doesn’t make sense to us. We will see less of each other and she won't be participating in our treasured family activities. Giving her driving freedom and independence affects the whole family (and my nerves) and how we spend our time.

This passage into being a legal driver will not automatically grant her the car keys. While I don’t always enjoy being the chauffer, I do recognize that some quality conversations do happen to and fro. I am afraid I will miss out on some good opportunities here! Some parents say we just need to let go! I guess we’re just not ready to let go for these reasons. Give us a few months (or a few years) to accept and adapt our family to the ever-changing needs of our children. We are always challenged to find the right balance.

Posted by Susan at 6/15/2004 03:30:39 PM | Link